Have you realized some conversations flow smoothly and you want them to go on forever and in other conversations, you feel anxious, tired and bored restlessly waiting for them to get over?
To let you know, every conversation goes through multiple energy shifts. If the shifts are more positive than negative or neutral, you find the interaction engaging and joyful. While the opposite is also true.
Now, the question comes: Is it possible to construct the positive shifts so that you engage more, and persuade like you never did?
The answer is a resounding ‘Yes.’
Follow these steps:
Start with an Energy Plan: While you are getting ready for a meeting, structure an energy plan along with the flow. The patches that are likely to be boring, add humor, stories, anecdotes, and questions.
Label Your Emotions: Not everything happens as per the plan, so keep measuring the energy by reflecting at your feelings and emotions and labeling them. If you are feeling low and disengaged, the other person is also likely to feel the same.
Anchor the Energy Shift: You can trigger an energy shift in many ways. One of the simplest ways is to extend the space. Take the pressure off the conversation, be it a timeline, or a commitment. Another way is to acknowledge and appreciate the other person.
However, if you are flooded with negative emotions and unable to anchor them, this is the time to pause the meeting or change the topic.